Listen, babes. Dry your tears. Mama Libs is here to tell you that everyting gon’ be arie.
For most of you, the news of Zayn’s departure from 1D was soul crushing. You’re feeling all the feelings in the world and that’s OK. I’m not here to make you feel silly or tell you that you need a little perspective given what’s going on in the world. I remember what it was like to be a teenager, mostly because I’m emotionally stunted at 17 so it’s really easy for me to put myself in your shoes.
My generation had to make sense of Ginger Spice quitting the Spice Girls in 1998. I was only 11, but I remember feeling let down by the singer’s decision. What about Girl Power? What about friendship never ending? Was it all a lie? This was before Twitter, Facebook and Instagram. My classmates and I discussed the news at length at recess, in a sense mourning the end of a belief that the Spice Girls would reign supreme forever, and we tried to make sense of the business that was behind the group the entire time.
At the end of the day Zayn and his fiancé (who it looks like you all hate), are just like you and me. Everyone’s just doing their best to be happy in life, and sometimes that means making some tough decisions. Show business is fucked. Fame is an illusion. Maybe this can be a lesson to you now to realize what’s really important in life, and that fame, beauty and money don’t necessarily equate happiness.
Be careful what you post online, 1D fans. There are some dangerous hashtags going around encouraging you to cut yourself to show how much you love Zayn, and how devoted you are to the band. DON’T FALL FOR THAT SHIT. It’s toxic. If you’re feeling compelled to hurt yourself please talk to your parents, a cool aunt, or a teacher you really like. Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about how you’re feeling. I guarantee at some point everyone’s felt this way, whether it was the Beatles breaking up or when Kurt Cobain died, we’ve all been there.
Take some time to really think about what your feeling and expand those feelings into what they represent in YOUR life. The band might have been an escape from all the shit you deal with at home or in school, it might have been the first time you developed a really strong crush on a guy, and that’s OK! Those are powerful feelings that most of us adults forget as we get older.
I know you’re sad, but I guarantee that it’s going to be OK.
Now, turn the volume up and start dancing away your sorrow.